You can have it all, just not all at once

You can have it all, just not all at once

“You can have it all. Just not all at once.” Oprah Winfrey

Eat the cakeI want to be lean, lose a few kgs and cms, but I also want to eat all the delicious food all the time. Not just once a weekend and not the low calorie alternatives. I want to eat out, I want to eat without guilt.

I want to workout 5 – 6 days a week, but I am also a mom and my kids come first. Why? Because that is the way I’ve decided to parent. I only make time for myself when they are both at school. But being a full time mom is busy, it’s never ending and it’s time consuming!

I also want to study more, but my time is already so short that I struggle to allocate dedicated time to this on a regular basis.

you can have it all, just not all at once

Oprah makes a good point. We all want it all. The healthy body, time to ourselves, be a great wife/partner, etc etc. But, what I’m starting to realize more and more as a mother is that we just can’t! There is too much in our lives, especially when raising young kids, that we need to prioritise. We need to change the narrative.

But change of any sort is not easy. Whether it’s changing a job, town, country or yourself, it takes time, effort, patience and persistence.

change the narrative

So although I want it all, I can’t have it all at once. I can have it all, but not at the same time at this stage of my life. I need to choose what’s most important and achievable in my current season and just work on that. The next season will come and with it will come space for more change.

The world around us ‘tells’ us that we need to be it all; wife, friend, daughter, mother, fit, healthy, happy. We read about and see it in movies and social media. And it’s truly difficult to remember that IT’S NOT REAL LIFE!

choosing what’s important

ChangeRight now I wish I could gym 4 – 5 times a week, I wish I could stick to my eating plan 100%, I wish I could work on myself more. But all that is not possible for me right now. And that’s ok. It’s not truly possible for most people out there.

So I am choosing what’s important to me right now and that is exercise. When I exercise I feel better, and if I feel better I’m nicer to myself, my kids and my husband. If I feel better I am able to make better choices about so many things.

I am going to just focus on getting in exercise as often as possible – ride the Peloton, go for a walk, hit the gym – these are all options that are easy to fit into my day. Just 1 small change can have ripple effects into other areas of my life.

What small, singular change can you make that will, over time have a ripple effect into other areas of your life?

Much love xxx



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